2023 Layne Family Christmas Letter

Well, here we are again, fast approaching that festive season of peace on earth and goodwill toward men when we take time from our busy lives to remember the birth of Jesus and how much better we have it today than in Christmases past before free shipping.

It’s hard to imagine folks aren’t getting tired of hearing about the dull goings on of our small, ever shrinking clan, but if you're determined to read on, buckle up – it’s going to be a long and bumpy ride.

In early March, we lost another player from our roster when Gary succumbed to the rare non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma he’d been battling for over 9 years and in earnest for the prior 14 months. As all endings are new beginnings, we are pleased that Ann, the love of Gary’s life, agreed to join our family as an honorary Mayerhofer. The City of Crystal Lake made plans to honor their long-time city administrator and resident by constructing a memorial at the entrance to his prized Three Oaks Recreational area to be dedicated on June 9th along with the first annual memorial picnic/celebration of life to raise awareness and money for Leukemia & Lymphoma Society.

Saddled with the time-consuming task of settling her brother’s estate, Karen had to say goodbye to her job at the church and sixteen-foot-tall Jesus who provided meager comfort during her lonely year working in the sanctuary basement. Of late she spends her days wearing the various hats of medical transport driver, health care advocate, financial advisor, chamber maid, and Sparky’s emotional support human.

Speaking of the hounds, Sparky continues his tireless defense of our homestead, chasing away any leaves, wind, or Boeing 737’s that dare trespass upon our property or invade our airspace, along with Mark who he seems unable to recognize. When not Velcroed to Karen’s chest, he functions as a living, breathing Swiffer, collecting all the dirt from outside and bringing it indoors. He continues to baffle veterinary science, having the memory of a goldfish with Alzheimer’s and a daily fecal output equal to twice his food intake. Even after three plus years Maggie still isn’t quite sure what to make of her enigmatic roommate, often staring at him as if to say, “WTF, dude?”

One positive outcome of Gary’s passing is Amanda found her first boyfriend. (In truth, Karen and Eileen found Amanda her first boyfriend and by extension, Todd's first girlfriend.)

Get your pencils and scorecards ready… 

Eileen is Glen Benrus’ wife. Glen is the Mayerhofer’s former next-door neighbor and Gary’s best friend since childhood. Todd is their eldest son. As weddings and funerals have a way of bringing people together and rekindling old friendships, so did Gary’s untimely departure lead to a Benrus-Mayerhofer family reunion of sorts which eventually led to a garage sale at Gary’s townhome.

If you’re wondering what harm could come from leaving two conniving women unsupervised on a chilly spring morning with a shortage of shoppers, you’ve apparently never watched I Love Lucy. In keeping with the spirit of Season 2, Episode 27, "Lucy" and "Ethel" hatched a harebrained scheme to have their eldest children “accidentally” meet at a Cubs game that summer.

When Amanda caught wind of the subterfuge, the neighbors had to close their windows. To borrow a line from Gene Shepherd, she wove a tapestry of profanity which still hangs over our block to this day. Who (besides Ally & Mark) would have thought she might regard meddling in her personal affairs an act of high treason? Go figure.

As the fateful day of the game approached and Amanda’s anxiety mounted to dizzying heights, she took matters into her own hands intent on heading off the inevitable pre-first-pitch rather than waiting until the 7^th inning stretch. It began with a few innocent texts, progressed to an actual conversation, then on to an informal date, all prior to the contrived “cute meet” arranged by their mothers.

Against all odds and in contravention of most universal laws, Amanda discovered she liked Todd and he her. The two enjoy each other’s company and hang out regularly. As of this writing and at risk of violating HIPAA, Amanda recently learned firsthand what the second stanza of Dionne Warwick’s 1970 hit, “I’ll Never Fall in Love Again” is about. Nevertheless, we're all glad for Amanda, and our heartfelt condolences go out to Todd. 😔 

Ally continues to pursue her lifelong dream of singing backup for Taylor Swift. In the meantime, owing to some twists and turns in her academic trajectory, she took fall semester off from Iowa and has since been saving lives one vertebrae at a time as a trained chiropractic technician at Evolve Chiropractic. Able to administer certain chiropractic therapies to patients covered by the practice’s malpractice policy and Mark, she has become a trusted staff member, fill-in office manager, and favorite among certain patients who stop by just to see her. She will be sorely missed when she heads back to Iowa City in January. This November she was faced with her own Sophie’s Choice when her beloved Hawkeyes squared off against her even more beloved JJ McCarthy in the Big 10 Championship. She now eagerly awaits the outcome of “JJ vs Everybody” on Jan 1, and finding out who will replace Brian Ferentz this spring.

In May, having traveled either east or south for the past many years, we pointed our wagons west for what was almost our last family vacation. Inheritor of Karen’s planning gene, Amanda arranged the

whole affair which kicked off with an overnight in Anaheim where the girls spent 12 hours mingling with other humanoids, aliens, and droids at the Black Spire Outpost on planet Batuu. We then migrated to Palm Springs for a few days of rest, relaxation, and a brush with death before continuing to the Grand Canyon, finishing up several days later at Nevada’s depraved, adult version of Wally World.

Palm Springs is a winter resort community long favored by California’s rich and famous who have flocked there since the 1930’s to escape LA’s brutal winters where January temperatures can plummet into the low 50’s for days on end. Little did we realize that by May, the Hollywood elite flee back to the coast as daytime readings in the Coachella Valley creep up from the mid-90’s to over 300 degrees.

The most memorable experience from our stay in Palm Springs was hiking on the “short,” “family-friendly,” Victor Trail loop in Palm Canyons just south of the city proper. Although Amanda almost got us killed, everyone managed to make it out alive without the assistance of Palm Springs Search and Rescue. (Click here for a full recap of our Victor Trail ordeal.)

After a quick drive through Joshua Tree Nat’l Park to see more rocks and cacti, we followed in the footsteps of the Griswolds and drove east to Grand Canyon Nat’l Park. Having had our fill of the desert, the cooler, pine-scented higher elevation provided welcome relief to the heat and the threat of imminent death. One of the seven natural wonders of the world (currently ranked fourth according to a recent AP poll), words cannot accurately convey its splendor. We stayed at one of the four National Park Service lodges on the south rim, a significant downgrade from our luxury desert townhome but sufficiently small to discourage the girls from hosting a rave.

Pro traveler’s tip: if you plan to visit, grab the free shuttle from one of the lodges to take in a breathtaking sunset at Hopi Point. Better still, pack a picnic basket, bring the kiddies, and join the dozens of other young families on the canyon side of the safety fence where your little ones can romp about, toss a frisbee, play tag, or munch on a sandwich while dangling their feet over the unprotected edge of a 2,000-foot chasm.

Still stinging from our Victor Trail experience, we devoted our second day to a leisurely walk along the paved and level rim trail where, as Amanda discovered, the biggest danger is getting a 3^rd degree sunburn. From the visitors’ center, the trail follows the contours of the canyon past resorts and scenic overlooks, ending at the Bright Angel trailhead where several groups of exhausted and disoriented hikers who began their descent to the canyon floor in the fall of 1908, struggled to figure out what century they had returned to.

As many of life’s adventures do, ours ended in Vegas. Without question the most vile, abhorrent, detestable place on earth outside of Washington DC, Mark & Amanda spent their brief visit in the hotel room taking advantage of the all-you-can-breathe secondhand smoke while Karen and Ally braved the heat and crowds of intoxicated bachelor partygoers to experience the neon chaos of Sin City.

In August, one of Mark’s good friends convinced him to test his mettle at officiating high school football. It’s a thankless job where you’re always wrong – kind of like being married with two daughters. He did find it regrettable how the players failed to live up to the example set by their adult role models, electing to remain calm, polite, and respectful as opposed to the screaming, cursing, tantrum throwing and other demeaning, abusive, and otherwise reprehensible behaviors exhibited by their coaches, many of whom it seems could benefit from residential psychiatric care and/or Thorazine. With football season over, he now spends most of his uncommitted time as Sylvia’s private Geek Squad and personal shopper, minus the requisite expertise or interest.

Largely disinterested in the 300 channels and 2,000 streaming options for which Comcast exacts the equivalent of a mortgage payment each month, Karen much prefers the twenty free stations she can watch via the HD antenna connected to their bedroom TV when Mark is standing in just the right spot. Her current crushes are Little House on the Prairie, Laverne & Shirley, and Combat, but her far and away all-time favorite is The Andy Griffith Show.

That said, Amanda couldn't imagine a better way to celebrate her mother's 60^th birthday than to plan a surprise, mid-September weekend getaway to the Mayberry Days Festival in Andy Griffith's hometown of Mt. Airy, NC, at Mark and Ally's expense. She booked yet another delightful Airbnb featuring a three-level cabin with bathrooms-and-bedrooms-a-plenty perched on the edge of a hillside overlooking the Blue Ridge Mountains.

The day we arrived, Mark froze in his tracks upon encountering three yellow jackets each the size of a Gulfstream G280 lying dead on the cabin’s front stoop. Obviously placed there by the queen as a warning to any humans who might wander too close to her nest, Mark spent the weekend locked in the car.

Karen and the girls, meanwhile, traveled back in time to enjoy the homespun charm of idyllic "Mayberry" – a quaint black-and-white town cradled in the gentle embrace of simpler times. They had lots of fun exploring the many contrivances made to look like the Hollywood backlot where the show was filmed, including a replica courthouse, filling station, and several real-life town drunks.

Mere days after returning from the 1950’s, K & M set the Wayback Machine to 1970 and ventured out once again, this time to Branson, the Pidgeon Forge of Missouri, where they were held hostage and battered for three hours by a pertinacious timeshare salesman who, when they refused to submit to his arm twisting, was dragged outside and shot, all so Mark could cash in on two free nights at a soon to be condemned hotel. At least there were no lines at Silver Dollar City.

In other death-defying feats, Sylvia punched her ticket to 2024 after celebrating birthday #91 on December 10th. A raucous and spirited affair with balloons, a clown, and adult beverages, it was a shame Sylvia couldn’t attend. On a less festive note, she learned in October her cancer had returned. Bound and determined to avoid a tearful reunion with Don, she agreed to another two rounds of chemo. It seems she may be just ornery enough to add cancer to the list of items she’s chased out of her life over the course of the past 100 or so years.

In retrospect, the spirit of this year is perhaps best summed up by the words of former British statesman Benjamin Disraeli who said, “Like all great travelers, I have seen more than I remember, and remember more than I have seen.” 

As 2023 fades in the rearview mirror and the scars from the year’s adventures begin to heal, we will take with us a few fond memories and several lessons learned, none of which we would trade for all the sand still stuck in our shoes. As The Alchemist’s Paulo Coelho wrote, “If you think adventure is dangerous, try routine. It is lethal.”

Merry Christmas to All, and to All Good Grief,

Karen, Mark, Amanda, Ally, Maggie, and Scummy